Sunday, January 7, 2007

Relationships Epiphany

In my experiences, people are extremely touchy when it comes to relationships. OK, I can hear you now: "Thank you, Captain Obvious!" But really. If you're in a relationship, that automatically means that you cannot say anything negative about being romantically involved because that's "easy for you to say." We're called hypocritical, if we say that relationships are tough. At least we have someone. Well, I say that's ridiculous. Relationships are hard work, and it is very hard to find someone that cares for you the same way you care for him/her. What happened to the old sage saying, "Everyone is entitled to her own opinion?"

Whether or not you are in a relationship is irrelevant. What does matter, is being able to back your arguments -- whether it be through experience, research or something else. And, after being in a relationship for about three years, as a result of my experiences, it is very hard work to stay with someone, to stay seriously committed to someone. Imagine finally discovering that someone you have had a crush on for months is attracted to you. You start dating, only once you start dating you have to keep the feelings mutual (i.e. if you decide it's love you better hope your partner feels the same way). You could fall harder, while your partner can simply fall out. Or, he/she wants to relax and see other people, when you're ready to move in, or get married. I hope you get my point. And that is why I think relationships are tough. And yes, at times, they do suck. But in the end, I hope it's worth it.

3 comments:

Monty said...

"Imagine finally discovering that someone you have had a crush on for months is attracted to you. You start dating..."

That's how it works? Oh, I thought that's about the time your chest gets crushed. I'm weird like that.

Unknown said...

Haha, always the pessimist, Monty. Honestly. And not to encourage it or anything but two things: one, that's why I put the "imagine" stipulation in front of it, and two, that's why I think relationships can be so difficult!

Monty said...

I suppose it would require imagining.